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By: Brittni On: October 3, 2018 In: Astrology Comments: 0

Let’s talk Venus retrograde: Her symbolism, what going retrograde in Scorpio means, and how it will impact us.

On October 5th Venus stations retrograde at 10 degrees of Scorpio. She is retrograde until November 16th when she goes direct at 25 degrees of Libra. If you have planets in between these degrees, especially the 7 primary planets: Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars, Jupiter or Saturn, then the next 40 days of her reversal are likely to be potent for you. On October 26th, she is cazimi the sun transitioning from the evening star phase, Hesperus, to her morning star phase, Lucifer.

Every 18 months Venus spends 40 days appearing to go backwards. It is significant when Venus goes retrograde because it is the most rare of all the planets. It is a time for reflection and realignment of our values, relationships, and desires. Are you getting your needs for intimacy met?

Venus has an 8-year cycle meaning she goes retrograde in the same sign every 8 years. Think back 8 years ago to the fall of 2010, 2002, 1996, etc to look for patterns. Of course, there will be differences, but more than likely there will be themes.

Venus – Symbolism

In traditional astrology, Venus and the Moon were the two primary representations of the feminine. There is some talk of Saturn being the “mother” but most astrologers view Saturn as the “father”.

Venus is the principle of binding together. That is why she is associated with love and relationships. Her primary purpose is to create harmony whether it is romantic or social.

Venus is the goddess of love and beauty. She makes life feel good.  Without her, we would feel no pleasure and would have nothing beautiful to look at.

She is everything Yin, feminine. She represents a person’s desire, sensuality, creativity and attraction. She has to do with life values and money. Depending on what sign she is in, she can be exceptionally charming, nurturing, seducing, and artistic.

Scorpio – Venus’ detriment

Scorpio is the sign of Venus’ detriment, or exile. This means that she is in the opposite sign that she rules which is Taurus. Venus rules both Libra and Taurus. When a planet is in the sign of its detriment it does not function as it typically would. It is as far away from home as it possibly could be. Imagine if you were in a complete stranger’s home who spoke a different language, ate weird food, and you didn’t have any of your own belongings. You would feel uncomfortable, out of place, and have to learn a new set of rules in order to survive.

Scorpio is a water sign ruled by Mars. Mars is masculine, assertive, and divisive. Think of it this way. Venus’ idea of a good time includes frolicking through fields of flowers, smelling each one with utmost pleasure. She loves lounging with friends while laughing, drinking wine, and gazing at the sunset. Mars, on the other hand, is ready for battle. It is fiercely independent either gearing up for war or strategizing how it will win its next competition.

You can see how this would stress Venus out. Each year while she moves through Scorpio, she not only has to live out her Venusian purpose of relating and creating harmony, she has to try and do this in a territory that is opposite of what feels natural for her. It is nearly impossible for Venus to “keep things nice and pleasant” in a sign that is obsessively concerned with digging deep for truth. There is a unique intensity to Scorpio that is extremely powerful, however, it can cause a planet like Venus to become obsessive and suspicious.

It is challenging to maintain peace and diplomacy when one person is constantly asking probing questions about how the other person really feels. Another person’s raw honesty is often uncomfortable. It is hard to be at ease in a relationship when you know too much. When there are no boundaries it’s challenging to relax and trust fully.

There is a fine line between asking thought-provoking questions in order to get to know someone better and invading someone else’s private world. Venus retrograde in Scorpio pushes the limit. In many cases, cathartic conversations are necessary. They have been put off for far too long. Saying the truth often changes relationships for the best. As long as both people are willing to hold space for each other’s reactions with compassion and attempts to understand, intimacy will follow.

Venus retrograde in Scorpio calls on you to get to get clear on what you desire in intimacy. This includes emotional and sexual intimacy. What does it mean to you to “be close” to another? How much do you really need to know to feel connected? If you can focus the investigation onto yourself instead of another there may be less conflict. However, avoiding conflict is not always the answer. Many relationships would improve if there was an increase in disclosure. Without communication we cannot have true intimacy.

This is a time to go deep and clarify our emotional needs. You may feel antisocial. Go with it. Make time to be alone. Slow down. Allow yourself to go within. Let the emotions flow. Try not to distract yourself too much. Make time for extra journal entries, free writing, and therapy sessions.

Jupiter in Scorpio means we have both benefics in the same sign. Jupiter gives us a boost of confidence while we deal with potential darkness or emotional heaviness.

Reflections:

  • What does it mean to be feminine?
  • How do you define beauty?
  • When do you feel most attractive and why?
  • What is underneath your need to feel pretty?
  • Do you spend excessive amount of money to improve your appearance and why?
  • What do you find beautiful in nature?
  • Are you missing out on beauty because your focus is too narrow?
  • What are your intimacy “issues”?
  • How do you get in the way of your emotional needs getting met?
  • Do you let people in to know the real you?
  • Do you focus on asking other people probing questions to avoid revealing information about yourself?
  • Do you need better boundaries?
  • Do you disclose too much?
  • Are your relationships satisfying emotionally, intellectually, sexually?
  • Do you ask people questions that are too personal?
  • Do you avoid asking people questions?
  • How can you love yourself more?